We’ve all heard it said, “There’s a time for everything.” Or “You’re just in a season, it will pass.” In fact, it’s Scriptural:
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, 8 a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.”
The good and pleasant seasons sound wonderful and just what God wants for us, right? It’s so easy to think that God couldn’t possibly want what we perceive as a bad or unpleasant season for us. And yet this Scripture passage tells us that God made both, and while we’re alive, we’re going to experience every season—the good and the bad—under heaven.
Pastor Rick Warren often says that life is like a roller coaster: if you’re going up and experiencing a good season, brace yourself because in about three weeks you’ll probably find yourself going down into an unpleasant season, screaming all the way!
We try so hard to hold onto those feel-good seasons, and there’s nothing wrong with that—we should have times of joy, dancing, laughing, loving, and peace. But when the not so good times roll, we need to remember that God has not left us. He’s walking right beside us through the mourning, weeping, uprooting, and war seasons, and that’s when a mentor is so helpful to remind us that she made it through her tough seasons and we will too.
The focus of my book Forsaken God?: Remembering the Goodness of God Our Culture has Forgotten is for us to remember how good God has been in all the seasons of our life. God never abandons His children. This is a message we need to share with each other and with the culture, especially during these challenging times we live in today.
Reasons for Not Liking our Life Season
Usually we don’t like our life season because:
It’s painful or uncomfortable.
We’re jealous and like what someone else’s life looks like more than our own life.
We’re living with the consequences of our, or someone else’s, behavior or decisions.
We’re discontent or discouraged.
We’re not sure if God still cares about us.
What would you add to the list?
We all have difficult seasons we want to end. Or maybe we’re in a wonderful season that we never want to end. Many life seasons we have no control over, even though advertisers and the culture would try to make you believe differently. They set us up to fail either way by thinking if we just drink the right cola, take the right pill, own the right car, use the right cosmetics and anti-aging products, eat the right food, reach success . . . every season of our life will be heavenly. The aging clock is going to stop and somehow God made our life to be different from everyone else’s life.
But that’s a lie and those who buy into it will never be content because everything God lists in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 is a season that everyone will experience.
What to Do When We Don't Like Our Life Season
We probably feel like crying, screaming, maybe yelling, getting depressed, ignoring, or trying to get out of it. If we're honest, we've all been there. But soon we realize that the only thing that works when we don’t like our life season is to ask God how He wants us to deal with it, and then listen carefully to how the Holy Spirit speaks to us. It’s that still small voice we hear guiding us when we cry out to God. We might not know how to get through the season, but God does. So often He’s talking, but we’re not listening.
Someone on a friend’s Facebook post asked how my Christian friend knew what God wanted. Did he have a direct line to God? I thought, Yes he does! Every Christian has a direct line to God the world doesn’t understand, and one we don’t use nearly enough: praying to Jesus who hears every word and the Holy Spirit who intercedes for us even when all we can do is groan.
For there is one God and one mediator between God and mankind, the man Christ Jesus.
1 Timothy 2:5 26
In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.
God doesn’t want us going through any season alone, but He also doesn’t want us listening to anyone who isn’t giving us biblical wisdom. That’s why in my new book, Mentoring for All Seasons: Sharing Life Experiences and God’s Faithfulness, every season has Scripture to study together that applies to the various issues women might experience in that season.
Being a mentor, or a mentee reaching out to another woman for guidance, doesn’t mean the mentor has all the answers or the Bible memorized. It just means she's willing to search God’s Word and pray together for Him to tell you both what to do in the life seasons you’re in right now; and then, you both reach out and help someone else going through something similar.
Tammy Keene tells how sisters in Christ mentoring her and walking alongside gave her courage to lead Bible studies and now as Director of FBCR’s TAG Mentoring Ministry:
Without realizing it, my mentoring journey began January 2013 on a treadmill. At the time, I just thought I was asking Lisa to join me on a weight loss journey. But as we exercised, we shared life—the good, the bad, the ugly. Praying for and encouraging each other was especially meaningful – we did life together.
I asked Lisa if she thought the FBCR ladies would enjoy the First Place 4 Health Bible study we were enjoying together, and our “treadmill mentoring” gave me the courage to lead it and eventually start the Tuesday Night Ladies Bible Study. With each new study, Kathy Hosea mentored me as I stretched to grow in spiritual maturity and selecting studies for our group.
During Pastor Jeff’s transformation sermon, God clearly spoke to me about a new ministry for women, a mentoring ministry with a mission statement: Influencing others to become thriving followers of Christ: Touching Another Generation.
TAG’s theme verse Psalm 145:4 “One generation shall praise your works to another and shall declare your might acts.”
TAG’s Passion is helping women become thriving followers of Christ through intentional woman to woman relationships.
Simply put it is Sisters-in-Christ walking alongside one another, experiencing life together and ultimately growing in faith.
Exactly what Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 tells us we need to do when we’re going through any life season! “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their efforts. For if either falls, his companion can lift him up; but pity the one who falls without another to lift him up.”
Mentoring for All Seasons: Sharing Life Experiences and God’s Faithfulness releasing 9/12/17 is available now for pre-order.